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Substance use is a symptom of emotional struggle or pain, and seeing it purely as defiance or misbehaving is missing the point. You can try all the controls, consequences and punishment you want to make your teen stop what you know is wrong and that only INCREASES their emotional distress. Plus, it drives disconnection between you so your teen won’t accept your support. Substance use is scary for parents, even if teens think it’s normal with no side effects or impact on their brain. I understand your first reaction is to remove it and stop it RFN! What your teen needs is a safe person, an advocate to get them support that addresses WHY they’re using and the emotions they’re struggling with (fear, overwhelm, anxiety, derepression, etc.). In the short term, set boundaries around where they use or keep supplies while listening more than you talk (lecture). Get my proven 3-step system to building emotional safety and genuine connection to have hard and healing conversations now. Type CONNECT below and I’ll get you free access! #mommingsohard #mommingishard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents
✋ IMMEDIATELY NO - grounding or setting consequences for your teen's lack of performance at school. That might work if your teen was a robot without emotions who needed reprogramming to improve what you want as the outcome. In reality, teen brains are far more emotionally centred so changing the source of their behaviour means creating a safe connection first. Punishments or consequences do EXACTLY the opposite. Your teen is struggling for reasons you can't see and don't understand. Becoming their ally means supporting your teen's mental and emotional health so you support the change, not drive it, as they define success on their terms one baby step at a time. This builds their self-esteem so all areas of their life improve and you create a lasting and meaningful relationship. If this post has you bothered and upset, click the link in my bio for my free, research-based framework with proven tools to redefine your relationship with your teen. . . . #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers
Does it seem like your teen is failing in school and appears indifferent? Remember: apathy is often a coping strategy. It’s their way of shielding themselves from pain and preserving their self-worth. I’ve been there. For me, pretending not to care was a defense mechanism. It was my way of protecting myself from the hurt and keeping a shred of confidence. Even if their grades reflect otherwise, don't be fooled. Behind the façade, your teenager still cares deeply. Comment SCHOOL or click the link in my bio to learn more! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
When your teen believes their anxiety is bigger than them, it can feel impossible to manage—especially when their emotional brain takes over at night. That’s when their fear ramps up, and they start believing they’re not safe alone. 😔 But this isn't the truth—it’s a story driven by anxious attachment. As a parent, knowing how to support your teen through these tough moments can make all the difference. Comment "SUPPORT" and I'll send you my free tools or click the link in my bio! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents
Your teen just bit your head off because they don’t like something THEY chose. How is that your fault?! It’s not, yet it’s easy to feel triggered and snap back, escalating into conflict and eroding connection. Try saying this instead, “What do you need from me right now?” This statement keeps you emotionally regulated without assuming you know what’s going on in their mind, and respectfully puts the ball back in their court to ask for what they need. Improving communication is just one of the 5 parenting pitfalls I’m talking about in my Challenge - 5 Days to a Better Relationship With Your Teen. Tap my name ⬇️ then click the link in my profile to register and get simple, proven tools to lower frustration and improve connection with your teen for just $29.97! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens
The words that echo often in our heads, especially as Mothers to Autistic Children that may have substantial needs are usually, "I am NOT enough" or "I'm NOT good enough." Well, l'm here to tell you Mama, you're WRONG. You were GRACED for THIS. Yes, even on your worst and hardest days. God knew you, and God knew your child (ren) even before they were born. All he needs from you is for you to TRUST HIM, and for YOU to keep BEING YOU. You are more than enough, and exactly the woman and mother he needs in this journey. If not, he wouldn't have picked you. Think about that, he left one of his most vulnerable children in your care for life. So again, YOU are GRACED for this, he made sure of that. The rest is up to him, and you just continue being YOU. Clip is from the movie: “A Mom's Night Out" #autismmom #supportneedsmom #specialneedsmom #autismparent #momlife #mommingishard #autism #asdmom #highsupportneeds #faithoverfear #momsencouragingmoms
Turn Conflict into Connection with Your Teen. Modeling healthy conflict is essential in guiding our children through disagreements. It's not about the volume of our voices but the actions that follow. Apologizing, taking responsibility, and fostering a dialogue of curiosity and understanding are the pillars of resolving disputes. By showing our kids how to navigate conflict and reach resolutions openly, we instill in them the confidence that disagreements are not threats but opportunities for growth and deeper connections. Eager to break the cycle and model healthy conflict resolution in your family? Tap the link in bio to discover practical strategies that will empower you and your teen to navigate conflicts with respect and understanding. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
Do you know the difference between permissive parenting and respectful parenting? Navigating from an authoritarian upbringing through the trials of permissive parenting, I learned neither extreme nurtured the mutual respect essential between parents and teens. My journey through research, personal therapy for my ADHD, and understanding my son's ADHD and autism, led me to the empowering middle ground of respectful parenting. This path has shown me how mutual respect is the foundation for healthy, fulfilling relationships with our teens. Interested in fostering a relationship based on mutual respect with your teen? Tap the link in my profile to get my FREE masterclass today! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
Is your angry teen coming at you with sassy back talk or baiting you into arguments? This is normal when they don’t know how to effectively express anger in words, or feel safe to do so. That’s why your teen blames or projects anger on you as a way of getting it out of their body because it feels scary and uncomfortable. Overtime, this increases anxiety and puts a strain on their mental health, not to mention your relationship. Getting the proven tools to model, healthy, anger, expression and support your teen and developing an emotional vocabulary are critical success factors in their overall mental health, self advocacy, resilience, confidence, and even future relationship success. Get started now with my proven three-step framework in my free master class. Tap my name, then the link in my profile for access today. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers
Your teen moody, grumpy, reactive... YOU: “What’s wrong?” TEEN: “OMG, you’re so annoying!” This is a frustrating and annoying pattern because you sincerely care yet your teen seems to shut you out so you get nowhere. Your teen’s brain is developing an increased emotional capacity -roughly 16 emotions to 88, yet they don’t have the intellect to effectively name or express those. Your question to understand feels even more frustrating because they don’t have the words. Teens tell me these increased emotions feel like being locked in a crate with the water level slowly rising and they can’t get out. Without a way to name and process their feelings, they hold them inside and feel trapped, like they’re drowning. Building an emotional vocabulary so your teen can share and release those feelings relieves symptoms of anxiety, depression and overwhelm to build confidence… but only when they feel safe. Support your teen learn healthy self expression while being their safe and trusted sounded bound using my proven 3-step framework that’s helped thousands of parents to lower conflict and connect with their teens. Start today by clicking the 🔗 in my profile and watch my FREE masterclass! Seriously, go do it! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealthmatters #teenmentalhealth
How is is possible to miss your teen so much yet they live in the same house? You desperately miss the child who wanted to spend time with and share their thoughts with you. Instead, your teen hides in their room and barely comes out for meals. You're feeling heartbroken and rejected by the same person you've given so much to. What if they weren't intentionally trying to hurt you? Knowing how to parent your teen in a different way that works for their developing brain is key to rebuilding the connection you desperately miss. Get simple, proven tools you need in my Challenge - 5 Days to a Better Relationship with Your Teen starting April 29th. Get the link to register NOW by clicking the link in my bio!! You're not alone. #mommingsohard #mommingishard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents
Are you tired of the stressful silences with your teenager? You're doing anything you can just to say a basic hello, and you get nothing but a blank stare, the hand, or no communication whatsoever because they won't even look at you. This is a version of stonewalling - a refusal to engage and a coping strategy for when your teenager feels unskilled to participate in the conversation so, as a protection mechanism, they just simply shut down. Try asking less emotional questions of your teenager, or take baby steps towards an answer that you're trying to get at. They may feel over stimulated and overwhelmed from a full day at school and need time to decompress first. Even if your teenager was once a very talkative tween, they may naturally be more quiet now anyway managing the amount of growth that's going on in their brain. If you want my proven framework for getting your teen to talk more, and becoming the best listener, get started with my free masterclass today (link below or in profile) https://alypain.com/transform-your-teen/ #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers
If you take your teen’s phone to get them to do what you asked, keep reading ⬇️ I get how frustrating and annoying it feels to ask your teen to do the simplest thing and feel ignored or brushed off. Or, they do something WAY beyond your clearly stated values and boundaries and to emphasize your point, you take their phone. Here’s why this doesn’t work to create long term behaviour change and instead keeps you in an exhausting cycle of taking your teen’s phone with only short term results... Taking their phone isn’t a consequence, it’s coercion (definition in the video) and that’s a form of punishment. Even though that’s what you and I grew up with, it’s an unhealthy emotional and relational tool that reinforces control and power and increases disrespect, defiance and disconnection. Consequences create long term change when you know the researched based secrets to connect before you correct. Get my proven 3-step framework for correcting behaviour and building respect to see lasting behaviour change in my FREE masterclass now! Type RESPECT ⬇️ and I’ll get you quick access. There is an easier way, I promise. 💜 #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens
Not mad @chappell roan for her opinions on motherhood. Momming IS hard. But so are a lot of things. Whatever path you choose I advise not letting discomfort scare you away because sometimes it’s the only way to what you really want. Like—being an international super star. Bet that took a lot of effort!!
You say - “You should...” Teen hears - “You’re not smart enough to work through this on your own.” When your teen shares, they’re processing and not looking for a response. If they ask you for input, they want your perspective NOT your advice. Believing your teen is capable to problem-solve and make decisions that work for them is the most encouraging role you can play. Create meaningful conversations without the 'SHOULDS' using my proven, 3-step framework. Get free access to my masterclass by clicking the link in my bio! . . . #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens
Is your teen facing academic challenges? Adding punishments only deepens their sense of defeat. Instead of focusing on consequences, it's crucial to offer emotional support and be their safe space, reassuring them that it's okay to stumble and that you're there for them! Comment SCHOOL or click the link in my bio to learn more! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
‘My teen is so entitled and they treat me like I’m a second class citizen!’ Entitlement isn’t a choice and teens aren’t born with it. It’s a learned behavior when parents lower their own value by putting themselves last and cater to their teen by always prioritizing them. Making sure your child has a great life doesn’t mean making them the centre of your life, then complaining they always take advantage of you. Stop pretending your teen will come down a few notches and start owning and raising your own value to model respect AND care. Being an equal human doesn’t mean being equal in authority, and yes, you can do both. If you’re not sure what to do next and you want to feel more respected, tap the 🔗 ib my profile to access to my free masterclass with my proven framework for setting boundaries and reducing entitlement. #entitlement #checkyourself #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #momofteens #parentsofteenagers #cyclebreakers #parentsofteens