Have Your Cake and Eat It Too

@Ree💓 will say it with chest. Every time. 🔥 #LoveIslandUSA

Yall get it ?? #thealmostdropouts #foryoupage #collegelife #breakdown

I know it means “you can’t possess the cake and also eat it” BUT WHY IS THAT A PHRASE ???!!!!! #rant #cake #eat

“🍰 and eating it, too” is such a hard saying because it oversimplifies the underlying psychology and dynamic of an affair. So what does it really mean? It means that the discomfort or pain of an affair does NOT outweigh the benefit of it or what it’s providing to a married person, otherwise there would be an easier proactive ability to make a choice. To have to choose means to give up one or the other. This means grief, loss, and a void of the presence of either. It feels impossible. And this is a large part of why affairs can go on for years and years indefinitely. To be in discomfort, conflict, or pain from an affair is different than to live in a state of permanent suffering because of it. We make very different choices when we are suffering than when we are in pain or discomfort. The key word here is *AND*. You are in pain *AND* you are also gaining something important to you from having both, and would lose something by not having both. … and, same goes for affair partners… there is enough that an AP who is in pain is getting from staying in the affair, to continue to withstand that pain and discomfort. I say this with all the compassion and understanding in the world, by the way. It is only when the suffering of an AP outweighs the perceived benefits that we begin to shift into a state of self-efficacy and autonomy again. My Masterclass for Unfaithful Spouses AND my Program for Affair Partners are hugely beneficial in finding the tools, insight, and internal courage to consider ending the cycle. Links in bio ❤️ #affairs #infidelity #cake #eat #saying #marriage #family #kids #mom #dad #friends #divorce #help #selfhelp #selflove #freedom #gain #pain #choose #choices #choice

wanting ≠ having #cakeandeatittoo #philosophytiktok #fy

LMFAO SERENA IS HILARIOUS 😂 #loveisland #loveislandusa #serena #funny #iconic

Baby its your birthday 🥳 #foryou #spotify #fyp #speedsongs

Replying to @Mr. Scripts #women #womenoftiktok #feminism #dating #datingadvice #fyp

Having my cake and eating it too 🎊🎂#birthdaygirl #34 #birthdaycake

kai rlly funny tbh | #happybirthday #kaicenat #kaicentedit #fyp #viraltiktok

Someone tell me this is relatable #fyp #foryou #bestie #relatable #bestfriend #bffboyfriend #funny #haveyourcakeandeatittoo #trendy #haha

it’s my sweet sixteen !! tiny bit dorky i couldn’t stop smiling and the anticipation was making my hands shake!! peep my bestie in the corner#Inverted

We make choices over here out of WANT not need #empoweringwomen #haveyourcakeandeatittoo #rebuildingmylife #intentionalaf #intentionaldating

#INUMAKI | HAPPY BIRTHDAYYYYYYY🥳🥳 #inumakitoge #jjk #jujutsukaisen

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