In this video, you are hearing from Ren and Zach. Their child was able to utilize the skills they learned in our workshop in everyday thinking during a specific circumstance on the subway.
Kids on the Offense is a nuanced approach to bullying prevention that teaches young people, ages 7-12 skills for self advocacy, respecting boundaries, awareness, and self defense while enabling parents to empower their kids!
If you are interested in hosting Kids On The Offense: Power Over Bullying Workshop in your School or community email us at info@self-offense.com!
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Eye contact communicates! If you are someone who prefers to seek out eye contact, you read as approachable/ available for interaction. For example, you are likely get asked for directions and money on the street. The upside is that you can make eye contact from a distance, before people get close to you, and make decisions based on your assessment of them from a distance as well as using your eye contact to communicate with them not to approach you. (Anyone remember the look their parents gave when you were in trouble? “Don’t. Move.”) If you are someone who prefers to avoid eye contact, you don’t read as approachable/ available for interaction, which you could say is the upside. The downside is that your vision is limited and you may not get enough warning to keep someone at a distance- aka- out of grabbing range. The Self Offense approach is to combine them! We invite you to practice making eye contact and then looking away whenever you’re ready to look away. Think: “I see you, and I’m done with you.” This both communicates that you are aware and confident enough to make eye contact- and when you look away communicates, “ I am not open for an interaction.” Depending on the situation eye contact may or may not always be a good idea- the “rule” to keep in mind is: eye contact communicates and to ask yourself- “what do I want to communicate in this moment?” Let us know in the comments different questions/ experiences you have with making or breaking eye contact! Eye contact is a big topic, we’ll continue to say more in the future! #EyeContact #SelfOffense #Communication #BeOnTheOffense #MakeEyeContact #BreakEyeContact #CombinationOfBoth #NYCLife
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·2022-9-8Replying to @Send help It’s not about speed, it’s about intention. When you know where you’re going (even if you only know you’re going from here to the end of the block) it reads as confident. #NotAboutSpeed #SelfOffense #OverallAwareness #StayVigilant #WalkingWithConfidence #NotATarget #LookAllAroundYou
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·2022-8-31This is a super easy practice to bring into your everyday life! Whenever you’re standing around waiting, put one foot forward and one foot back! Try it for yourself! Simply because of how you’ve planted your feet, you’ll be more sturdy and more easily resist accidental or intentional pushing! To learn more Self Offense practices like join us for our upcoming NYC workshop or check out our online modular training! Link in bio! #WalkingStance #SelfOffense #BeMoreSturdy #NYCLife #NotATarget #ConfidenceWhileWaiting
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·2022-9-5Happy birthday to Sensei Zelda! We love you so much and are honored that we get to share a huge piece of our life with you! Thank you for all that you do and for all that you are to us! Enjoy every moment of today and this entire weekend! 33 looks good on you! #celebratingyou #senseizelda #happybirthdaysenseizelda
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·1-19Ren and Zach, parents who attended Kids on the Offense: Power Over Bullying Workshop with their child this past November, share about the difference the workshop’s conversations and activities made for them as parents and for their child. Kids on the Offense is designed for families to participate together so that families leave with a set of tools to approach unpleasant / harmful situations and interactions with agency and as a team. We cannot stress enough the value of Zach and Ren’s active participation and we acknowledge their family for taking a stand to empower themselves. Because bullying interactions and situations are usually nuanced, when families have the shared vocabulary and frame of reference that Kids on the Offense provides, they are able to navigate what are often confusing, hurtful and complex situations powerfully. The workshop is fun! And it has kids and families engage in what they are dealing with in their lives, not a concept of bullying. The inquiry that families participate in supports kids to learn the kind of lessons that make the most difference and build the skills that we want all our children to have; self advocacy, resilience, awareness, and compassion. If you are interested in bringing our Power Over Bullying Workshop to your School or community email us at info@self-offense.com! #Bullying #SelfOffense #Tools #KidsOnTheOffense #Interactions #Empowerment #Kids #Parents #SelfDefense #Boundaries #Reflect #Techniques #NYCLife #NuancedApproach #Awareness
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·2024-12-29Most of us are not trained to speak from what is happening; we are trained to speak from our descriptions of what is happening. We speak from a conclusion we have made about a situation, instead of speaking from an inquiry into the situation itself. We fundamentally objectify and whittle down all the nuance of what happening into a concept of what is happening and then make judgments from there. If we can instead speak to what is literally happening in a situation-that is what is being said or being done- it will force us to create space between our initial judgments and our ability to address the actual situation. When we can hold what is happening or what happened and our analysis of what happened with equal weight, we make room for all the nuance that most situations require. —Check out our book “Beyond Self Defense: How to Say No, Set Boundaries, and Reclaim Your Agency,” an empowering guide to safety, risk assessment, and personal protection published by North Atlantic Books and available on audible! For other ways to be on the offense of your life, watch our other videos. Want in-person learning? Come to our workshop in NYC and LA to kick start your practice with us! Links in bio. #Education #No #BookRelease #NYCLife #OrderOurBook #BeyondSelfDefense #BookTok #LeadingWorkshops #Confidence #NYCWorkshops #Analysis #WhatHappened #Concept #Idea #SelfOffense #Judgment #Story #Literal #BeOnTheOffense #RestorativeJustice #Practice #Empowerment #Compassion #WillingToUnderstand #Prevention
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·2024-12-9In our workshop, we support kids to practice throwing a tantrum in the face of being grabbed by an adult and we coach them to effectively throw elbows,stomp on feet, throw their head back, kick, scream, and go nuts. This helps kids build confidence using a skill that they all have access to and understand (tantrums). It takes practice and often requires coaching, but the most important lesson is that they can resist and that they are stronger than they think! This is one way of dealing with an attack from behind. While the workshop largely focuses on preventative strategies, we do defensive exercises like this because they are practical and BECAUSE THEY ARE FUN! Thank you to all of the parents who are committed to impacting their kids ability to protect themselves at any time. Kids on the Offense is a nuanced approach to bullying prevention that teaches kids ages 7-12 skills in self advocacy, respecting boundaries, awareness, and self defense while empowering parents to support their kids! If you are interested in bringing our Power Over Bullying Workshop to your School or community email us at info@self-offense.com! #Bullying #SelfOffense #Tools #KidsOnTheOffense #Interactions #Empowerment #Kids #Parents #SelfDefense #Boundaries #Reflect #Techniques #NYCLife #NuancedApproach #Awareness
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·2024-12-6Have you ever experienced being upset and wondered why giving or receiving an apology makes little to no difference? Join us for our listening workshop and get the tools to be able to listen to anyone, any time, and under any circumstance during our upcoming beach side retreat, “Be Like Water” in Trinidad/Tobago January 3-10, 2025. If you plan to be in the area, come join us! If you’d like to host your own listening workshop with us, email us at info@selfoffense.com. Link to sign up for this retreat and for more info is in our bio! #Understanding #BeingGotten #Recreation #BeingHeard #Tobago #Relax #Exploration #Listening #SurfersParadise #BeachLife #Apology #DailySurfingLessons #Trinidad #Listening #Boundaries #Growth #BeingUnderstood #Relationships #Rejuvenate #Adventure #Travel #Surfing #BeachTime #Caribbean #Beach #Couples #Partnership #Love #Communication #Workshops
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·2024-11-27In our workshop, we support kids to practice throwing a tantrum in the face of being grabbed by an adult. This is not the only way to handle an attack from behind, but this exercise teaches kids (and parents) that they are stronger than they think! This helps kids build confidence using a skill that they all have access to and understand (tantrums). Go big! Commit! While the workshop largely focuses on preventative strategies, we do defensive exercises like this because they are practical and BECAUSE THEY ARE FUN! Join us this Sunday November 24th 2-4pm for our Kids on the Offense workshop in Manhattan! Link in bio! #Bullying #SelfOffense #Tools #KidsOnTheOffense #Interactions #Empowerment #Kids #Parents #SelfDefense #Boundaries #Reflect #Techniques #NYCLife
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·2024-11-22Radical compassion!! Consider that we inherit so many ideas and standards around gender roles from many different sources in our environment; right down to your kids clothes. And look- don’t be weird- there is nothing wrong with boys wearing wolves T-shirts or t-rex pajamas- or girls liking bunnies- AND there is subtle messaging EVERYWHERE that we encourage you to begin to notice and interact with! Then we can CHOOSE what we participate in! For more conversations about nuance, compassion, and how that relates to your safety, personal protection and empowerment, watch our other videos and check out our book! “Beyond Self Defense: How to Say No, Set Boundaries, and Reclaim Your Agency,” an empowering guide to safety, risk assessment, and personal protection is published by North Atlantic Books and available on audible! Want in-person learning? Come to our upcoming workshop in NYC to kick start your practice with us! Saturday, November 23rd 3:30-6:30pm Links in bio. #Education #BookRelease #RadicalCompassion #Gender #Binary #Men #Women #BookTok #Standards #NYCLife #Practice #Confidence #OrderOurBook #BeyondSelfDefense #SelfOffense #LeadingWorkshops #Prevention #NYCWorkshops #Empowerment #BeOnTheOffense #Compassion #Predators #Prey #KidsClothing
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·2024-11-18When we build competence we create certainty. With certainty comes confidence. So how do we apply this to children’s safety. We help them develop skills in preventative personal protection, skills they can practice any time any where and with anyone to help develop their competence and such their confidence to keep themselves safe. Kids on the Offense is a nuanced approach to bullying prevention. It teaches kids ages 7-12 skills in self advocacy, respecting boundaries, awareness, and self defense while empowering parents to support their kids! In our workshop, families have the opportunity to reflect on previous bullying experiences, practice setting boundaries, learn some fun self defense techniques and break boards! Our next in person workshop in NYC is Sunday November 24th from 2-4pm. If you are interested in bringing our Power Over Bullying Workshop to your School or community email us at info@self-offense.com! Links in bio. #SelfOffense #Education #Kids #BeOnTheOffense #NYCLife #Upset #Parents #Parenting #BookTok #Competence #Tools #Confidence #BuildingConfidence #Practice #NYCEvents #Reflect #LeadingWorkshops #Families #NYCWorkshops #Unity #Love #Bullying #KidsOnTheOffense #Interactions #Empowerment #SelfDefense #Boundaries #Techniques
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·2024-11-14AIN’T THAT THE TRUTH! All kidding aside, how do you know if its a good idea to meet up with someone you’re chatting with? Find something to say “no” to and see what they do. If you say “no” or disagree, or counter offer and they get WEIRD, or nasty– that will likely give you all the information you need to see whether you want to get to know someone further. For other ways to be on the offense of your life, watch our other videos or check out our book: “Beyond Self Defense: How to Say No, Set Boundaries, and Reclaim Your Agency,” an empowering guide to safety, risk assessment, and personal protection published by North Atlantic Books and available on audible! Want in-person learning? Come to our upcoming workshop in NYC to kick start your practice with us! Saturday, November 23rd 1:30pm-4:30pm Links in bio. #SelfOffense #Education #No #BeOnTheOffense #BookRelease #NYCLife #OrderOurBook #Dating #Disagree #BeyondSelfDefense #BookTok #LeadingWorkshops #Confidence #Practice #Chatting #CounterOffer #NYCWorkshops
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·2024-11-13Are you craving some delicious and fresh new foods in a beautiful location? Come adventure and replenish with us during our upcoming beach side retreat, “Be Like Water” in Trinidad/Tobago January 3-10, 2025. We will be in the Surfers Paradise Villa - 5 minutes from one of the best surfing spots in the Caribbean!! Space is limited. Early Bird Registration Ends November 15th! The retreat will also include… integrative movement practices that underlie grounding, balancing and smart falling w/Shihan Michelle. Our Listen First Workshop where you discover the power of listening to bring love and affinity to any and all relationships. Killer HIIT workouts w/Sensei Zelda. Daily surfing lessons with water based activities & local adventures/ entertainment arranged by TocoToby (all surfing levels welcome!) Plenty of hammock time! We will fly to Port of Spain, Trinidad and then transfer to a quick and direct flight to Tobago. Link to sign up and for more info is in bio! #Tobago #Relax #Exploration #Listening #SurfersParadise #BeachLife #DailySurfingLessons #Trinidad #Rejuvenate #Adventure #Travel #Surfing #BeachTime #Caribbean #Beach #LocalVibes #HammockTime #Travel #Refresh #Dancing #BeingSelfExpressed
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·2024-11-7Are you craving some rejuvenation? Come relax with us during our upcoming beach side retreat, “Be Like Water” in Trinidad/Tobago January 3-10, 2025. We will be in the Surfers Paradise Villa - 5 minutes from one of the best surfing spots in the Caribbean!! Space is limited. Early Bird Registration Ends November 1st! The retreat will also include… integrative movement practices that underlie grounding, balancing and falling w/Shihan Michelle. Our listening workshop where you will get the tools to be able to listen to anyone, any time, and under any circumstance Killer HIIT workouts w/Sensei Zelda. Daily surfing lessons with water based activities & local adventures/ entertainment arranged by TocoToby (all surfing levels welcome!) Meals that are locally sourced and prepared. Plenty of hammock time! We will fly to Port of Spain, Trinidad and then transfer to a quick and direct flight to Tobago. Link to sign up and for more info is in bio! #Tobago #Relax #Exploration #Listening #SurfersParadise #BeachLife #DailySurfingLessons #Trinidad #Rejuvenate #Adventure #Travel #Surfing #BeachTime #Caribbean #Beach #LocalVibes #HammockTime #Travel #Refresh #Dancing #BeingSelfExpressed @D’Angela🦋Alberty
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·2024-11-3We are thrilled that the Self Offense book is available in NYC libraries and that it is consistently checked out!! We wrote this book to make this kind of difference and have the tools of Self Offense be available to anyone at any time and anywhere. Looking forward to our book being brought in to more libraries across the country and the world! Get your own copy of our book: “Beyond Self Defense: How to Say No, Set Boundaries, and Reclaim Your Agency,” an empowering guide to safety, risk assessment, and personal protection published by North Atlantic Books and available on audible! Want in-person learning? Come to our upcoming workshop in NYC to kick start your practice with us! Saturday, November 23rd 1:30pm-4:30pm Links in bio. #SelfOffense #Education #Library #NYCPublicLibrary #Amazon #Audible #BeOnTheOffense #BookRelease #NYCLife #OrderIt #OrderOurBook #Confidence #BeyondSelfDefense #BookTok #LeadingWorkshops #Practice @D’Angela🦋Alberty
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·2024-10-31@wellwithraele It can be empowering to let people know when we don’t agree about something in a respectful way. Consider, that some of the responses in the first half of this video can lead to escalation, and if you are okay with that, go right ahead! There’s nothing wrong about it! AND if you would prefer not to escalate, there is another approach that involves more cushion. It can still get the point across. It can take practice over time, see what approach works best for you! For other ways to build confidence, watch our other videos or check out our book: “Beyond Self Defense: How to Say No, Set Boundaries, and Reclaim Your Agency,” an empowering guide to safety, risk assessment, and personal protection published by North Atlantic Books and available on audible! Want in-person learning? Come to our upcoming workshop in NYC to kick start your practice with us! Saturday, November 23rd 1:30pm-4:30pm Links in bio. #SelfOffense #Education #No #BeOnTheOffense #BookRelease #NYCLife #OrderOurBook #Yes #BeyondSelfDefense #BookTok #LeadingWorkshops #Confidence #Escalation #Disagreement #Cushion #Responses #Practice
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