When women marry men, they often take on the work of maintaining the relationships with his family. This work unfairly falls to women and when the in-laws feel like they don’t see them enough, they often blame the woman. It’s important that we change our perspective here, and to men to become more involved in this important work. ##mentalload ##mentalloadofmotherhood ##kinkeeping ##inlaws ##holidayvibes ##marriageadvice
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