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·2022-2-20How to create an entitled teen #parentingteens #parentingteenagers #raisingteens #entitled #respectfulparenting
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·2021-10-29What’s happening to my teenager??!! 😩😤 #parentingteens #raisingteens #parentingadvice #parentingteenagers #adolescents #braindevelopment
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·2021-7-9But, you said to drop all expectations and now things have gone sideways! 😖 I know that's what you think I said, and it makes sense given you're likely raised to understand ACTUAL difference between an expectation and a boundary. Without the TRUTH, you'll end up in permissive parenting with your teen running the house (and you!). Expectation - holding your teen a standard (perfect) that requires LOADS of monitoring and compliance ⬅️ this doesn't work ❌ Boundary - the closest point you and your teen can find to loving and respecting yourselves AND each other in a negotiated agreement (you have the bottom line). ⬅️ this is where the magic happens ✅ Understand the difference and how to use with specific scripts creates the mutual respect you're wanting with WAY less stress! Tap the link in my profile to access my free masterclass where I'm walking you through my proven, 3-step framework. See you there! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens
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·19h ago Science reveals a powerful truth: meeting moments of humiliation with compassion and grace is key to decreasing shame in our teens. This approach helps them understand that their worth isn't defined by one result or failure. It's not about the outcome but their journey of learning and growing. When we show our teens that their value isn't tied to their results, we empower them. This isn't about removing boundaries or consequences; it's about the way we approach them. Through compassion and curiosity, we can guide our children toward greater confidence and resilience. Want to learn more? Tap the link in my bio to join my masterclass and discover my 3-step framework for creating lasting, respectful relationships with your teen without resorting to constant nagging or punishments. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
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·2d ago YOU: “Oh honey, it’s not that bad. I think you’re beautiful!” Empathy is critical for building connection with your teen so they feel heard and seen in what’s true for them. Unfortunately, it misses the target and has the opposite effect when you’re more concerned about changing your teen’s mind. Hearing that your teen is struggling with big, challenging emotions and negative self image triggers your brain into fight or flight, or the specific parenting version I call FIX. Your fears become more important than being with them in their feelings so you start with empathy.... and then end up totally invalidating them trying to convince them that what they feel isn’t true, good for them or pleasing to you in some way. That’s the #1 reason your teen isn’t sharing their feelings with you anymore, and that disconnection is painful for both of you. Want my proven scripts of what to say so your teen wants to share feelings with you, not hide them, AND appreciates your input and support? Tap the link in my profile for my free proven tips to reconnect quickly. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #listenmoretalkless #empathymatters
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·3d ago No matter our parenting style, whether it's sticking to the authoritarian methods of our own parents or veering towards overly gentle, friend-like approaches, we might unknowingly let shame creep into our interactions with our teens. It's a subtle but powerful force that can manifest in high levels of criticism, fear of conflict, or an excessive focus on correction. How can shame show up in different parenting styles and the impact it has on both us and our teens? If you're seeking to understand this better and learn ways to parent without unintentionally passing on feelings of shame, I invite you to click the link in my bio to access my masterclass. I delve deeper into these dynamics and learn how to build relationships with your teens based on understanding, respect, and genuine connection. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
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·4d ago Does your teenager need to be right about EVERYTHING?! And it’s driving you crazy??? 😩😤😠 Teenagers are constantly told they’re not old enough, not capable enough, not smart enough, not big enough, etc. The adolescent brain is craving independence and empowerment so as these two things are at odds, your teen fights harder to gain some ground to call their own. Sometimes they want to be right about how they remember an event even if you know that's not what happened, and now you're back in a power struggle. What if you didn't need to get baited into the right/wrong battle and knew how to stay calm even when your teen was pushing? Lowering conflict and reactivity with my 3-step proven framework that's helped thousands of parents just like you. Click the link in my bio and you'll get free access to my new masterclass to get started now. . . . #rightorwrong #imright #yourewrong #relationshipskills #communicationiskey #communicationskills #communicationtips #effectivecommunication #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #momofteens #parentsofteenagers #cyclebreakers #parentsofteens
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·4d ago ✨ "I feel like I have my son back." ✨ This beautiful transformation is why I do what I do. Helping parents and teens rebuild trust, connection, and understanding is the heart of my work. If you're feeling stuck or disconnected from your teen, you're not alone. There’s hope—and it starts with one step. Click the link in my bio to get exclusive early access to my new school program launching in January! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents
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·5d ago Is removing WiFi or technology your ‘go-to’ discipline? As simple and easy as that is (and sometimes necessary) it doesn’t do much for your relationship with your teen. It’s a power move to gain control and compliance. When you talk to your teen first, ensure they understand what action/choice the discipline is for, and ask what they feel is appropriate discipline, you’re likely to have greater impact AND connection. Parents! Let’s not be one-hit wonders. Discipline that involves conversation and reasonable consequences goes further to building respect and changing behaviour long term. Get my proven framework for creating lasting behaviour change with consequences that work in my free masterclass now. Click the link in my bio now! . . . #positivediscipline #settingboundaries #setboundaries #healthyboundaries #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers
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·6d ago These are the moments that make all the effort and hard conversations worth it. Connection is possible, even when it feels out of reach. 💛 If you’ve been feeling like a breakthrough with your teen is impossible, this is your reminder to keep going. Progress often shows up in the most unexpected and beautiful ways. 🌟 Click the link in my bio to get exclusive early access to my new school program launching in January! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents
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·1w ago MYTH: If your teen fails, their life is ruined. Facing the challenge of a teen failing in school can be overwhelming. You've tried everything – counselors, therapists, advocacy – yet nothing seems to change. It's a common struggle, fueled by the misconception that school performance is the only path to success. But remember, traditional schooling suits only certain learning styles, and not all teens fit into this mold. Understanding and addressing the unique needs of your teen is key. Join me in my free masterclass, where you'll learn the top 3 mistakes every parent makes, the secret to getting your teen to both like and listen to you, and my three pillars for creating an honest, connected relationship that lasts a lifetime, all without having to be a perfect parent. Click the link in my bio to register! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens
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·3-9🌟 Real change starts with us.🌟 This incredible parent is seeing the power of mindful communication and empathy in action! By pausing before speaking and truly connecting, they’ve created a more peaceful home environment—and the results speak for themselves. Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but small, intentional shifts like these make a world of difference. Grateful to be part of this journey! Click the link in my bio to get exclusive early access to my new school program launching in January! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents
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·3-8Parents - Are you tired of your teens explosive emotions or refusal to engage? They're either hot and blowing up or cold and closed off and you're exhausted trying to find a middle ground. You're doing your best to 'ride the wave' but are missing the easy conversations you used to have and moments of day-to-day connection. You want your teen to see you as a safe support in their life because you know how hard these years can be, yet without a proven strategy you keep getting more of the same. Tap the link in my profile for my FREE tools to create more calm and connection quickly. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #listenmoretalkless
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·3-7MYTH: If you can't command respect from your teen you're obviously failing as a parent. 👎 Maybe this is why your boundaries aren't working? 🤔 You were likely raised in an authoritarian environment where compliance and control were equated to respect... except by definition that's not true. Respect wasn't what got your butt in gear, it was fear. Control and compliance require fear, not respect, and fear isn't a healthy foundation for relationship. If you're ready for the truth about boundaries and how to use them to create the mutual respect you want with your teen, tap the link in my profile for my FREE Masterclass today! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingskills
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·3-6Are you setting your teenager's future relationships up to fail by making your teen the centre of your world? Loving your teen is a given. Being a martyr and abandoning yourself (emotions and needs) to make your teen feel special is NOT a moral high ground. You're denying and disrespecting yourself which only creates resentment because your teen won't care as much as you want and never asked you to do it anyway. Plus, you're teaching your teen that a healthy relationship is one where they come first and their partner is only there to serve and meet your teen's needs. NOPE! Stand up, respect yourself (because you don't need your teen's permission) and start showing your teen what a healthy dynamic looks like with boundaries and MUTUAL respect. If you're sacrificing yourself for your teen and you're ready to turn this around, tap the link in profile for my FREE Masterclass with my proven 3-step framework. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #positivediscipline #settingboundaries #setboundaries #healthyboundaries #teenproblems
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