But, you said to drop all expectations and now things have gone sideways! 😖 I know that's what you think I said, and it makes sense given you're likely raised to understand ACTUAL difference between an expectation and a boundary. Without the TRUTH, you'll end up in permissive parenting with your teen running the house (and you!). Expectation - holding your teen a standard (perfect) that requires LOADS of monitoring and compliance ⬅️ this doesn't work ❌ Boundary - the closest point you and your teen can find to loving and respecting yourselves AND each other in a negotiated agreement (you have the bottom line). ⬅️ this is where the magic happens ✅ Understand the difference and how to use with specific scripts creates the mutual respect you're wanting with WAY less stress! Tap the link in my profile to access my free masterclass where I'm walking you through my proven, 3-step framework. See you there! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens

Science reveals a powerful truth: meeting moments of humiliation with compassion and grace is key to decreasing shame in our teens. This approach helps them understand that their worth isn't defined by one result or failure. It's not about the outcome but their journey of learning and growing. When we show our teens that their value isn't tied to their results, we empower them. This isn't about removing boundaries or consequences; it's about the way we approach them. Through compassion and curiosity, we can guide our children toward greater confidence and resilience. Want to learn more? Tap the link in my bio to join my masterclass and discover my 3-step framework for creating lasting, respectful relationships with your teen without resorting to constant nagging or punishments. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens

✨ "I feel like I have my son back." ✨ This beautiful transformation is why I do what I do. Helping parents and teens rebuild trust, connection, and understanding is the heart of my work. If you're feeling stuck or disconnected from your teen, you're not alone. There’s hope—and it starts with one step. Click the link in my bio to get exclusive early access to my new school program launching in January! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents

Is removing WiFi or technology your ‘go-to’ discipline? As simple and easy as that is (and sometimes necessary) it doesn’t do much for your relationship with your teen. It’s a power move to gain control and compliance. When you talk to your teen first, ensure they understand what action/choice the discipline is for, and ask what they feel is appropriate discipline, you’re likely to have greater impact AND connection. Parents! Let’s not be one-hit wonders. Discipline that involves conversation and reasonable consequences goes further to building respect and changing behaviour long term. Get my proven framework for creating lasting behaviour change with consequences that work in my free masterclass now. Click the link in my bio now! . . . #positivediscipline #settingboundaries #setboundaries #healthyboundaries #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers

MYTH: If you can't command respect from your teen you're obviously failing as a parent. 👎 Maybe this is why your boundaries aren't working? 🤔 You were likely raised in an authoritarian environment where compliance and control were equated to respect... except by definition that's not true. Respect wasn't what got your butt in gear, it was fear. Control and compliance require fear, not respect, and fear isn't a healthy foundation for relationship. If you're ready for the truth about boundaries and how to use them to create the mutual respect you want with your teen, tap the link in my profile for my FREE Masterclass today! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingskills

YOU: Why should I respect my teen when they don't respect me?! If you're teen is rude, back talking, blaming you for everything, and being mean, respecting your them seems absurd. What if I told you they don't feel respected either, and that's part of what you're seeing? Respect is regard for someone's feelings not something you demand or command from your teen 'because you're the parent'. You're the adult with the fully formed brain so you're the leader. When you model respect by listening more and empathizing and validating your teen's thoughts and feelings (you don't have to agree), you'll get more respect in return.... and a calmer house! If you're like me, you weren't taught these skills and you know you want change, you're just not sure where to start. Tap the link in my profile for quick access! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens

Ever feel like you're talking at your teen, but they’re not talking back? 😞 You’re not alone. When teens withdraw, it’s easy to push harder, ask more questions, or try to force connection. But here’s the truth: loving them in their silence is often a stronger invitation to engage than any well-intentioned question. 🤐 They might not be ready yet, and that's okay. Creating a space of safety speaks louder than words. Comment "SUPPORT" and I'll send you my free tools or click the link in my bio! #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents

Let's talk about shame – a word that's often misunderstood and misused, especially in parenting. Shame is not just about pointing out a mistake; it's when we're made to feel that our entire being is flawed because of that mistake. That we're not enough, unlovable, or unworthy. It's deeply toxic and painful, and it affects our teens more than we realize. I know this all too well. Growing up, I felt the weight of shame acutely – it led me to hide my true self behind acts of rebellion, despite being a straight-A student and an award-winning athlete. I've been there, feeling like every mistake was a reflection of my worth, not just a momentary lapse or a learning curve. And I see so many parents unintentionally doing the same to their teens today. As a parent and a certified Relationship Systems Coach, I've learned the hard way – through personal experience and decades of healing and professional development. Shame doesn't teach or guide; it scars. And our teens, they're at a stage where they're figuring out who they are. The last thing they need is to feel that their worth is tied to their actions. If you're feeling stuck in this cycle of shame and blame, and you're worried about the disconnect it's creating with your teen, let's break this pattern together. I've been where you are, and I've also found a way out – a way to create a relationship based on mutual respect, understanding, and genuine connection. Click the link in my bio to access my 3-step framework. Let's empower our teens to be confident, emotionally intelligent individuals who know their worth isn't defined by their mistakes. Together, we can change the narrative and build stronger, healthier relationships with our teens. #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #parentsofteens #parentingteenagers #parentingteens

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